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I felt like answering quizzes before I watch Dennou Coil ep. 6. The first few (those from Mingle²) are from Toki’s.



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7 Random Facts/Habits
(Tagged by dementia)

Instructions for this meme:

* Each player starts with 7 random facts/habits about himself/herself.
* People who are tagged need to explain the 7 random facts/habits about themselves in their blogs.
* Then in turn, they need to choose 7 people to tag and list their names at the end of their blogs.
* The player needs to visit their sites too and inform them (say, by leaving a comment) that they have been tagged and that they need to read your (the player’s) blog to find out more about it.

Here goes:
1. I’m very OC.
2. I have terrible mood swings.
3. I don’t eat shrimp.
4. It’s my second time to wear braces (for the teeth).
5. My skin is very sensitive.
6. I like Leah Dizon. XD
7. I ‘eat’ Milo.

If you don’t know what Milo is, it’s powdered chocolate… For your chocolatey drink. XD;

I’m tagging hisaki, Lez, Kara, Mics, Tricia, aqrn785, and Adrian.

There are problems with GLobe DSL since last Sunday. I thought our modem was broken again and was about to get mad at the guy who said he fixed the modem by upgrading its firmware, until my dad told me that Globe DSL’s servers are having problems. The connection wasn’t very stable. It would be fine in a matter of hours then it would be down again. I’m not very happy with this, but at least my phone calls to Globe’s CS doesn’t compare to the number of times I called PLDT DSL. ‘Wag sana mausog. So I spent those offline hours organizing my yaoi scanlations by separating them alphabetically and properly renaming them. Of course, I read some of them in between. Hehe~ I want more Myuuzu Gakuen de Aou by Tateno Makoto. Will it only be a oneshot? It says in the last page that there will be more, so I’m hoping. Yuu’s so HOT and I loved how he look at Hanai with that “I miss you so much look”… So much ♥. :D Hanai’s so UKE, but he gives that SEME feeling when Yuu’s obviously the SEME. Revenge! is another good read. The sex scenes were great. *_* I just posted about those I’ve read here. I’ll eventually put them up in jsg too.

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Last Saturday I watched Transformers the movie (btw, that movie is just awesome! can't wait for the sequel). Afterwards I looked for something new to style my hair with because I just had a new haircut and since my hair has become a bit shorter, I sometimes look silly applying gel on it. A half-hour walk in the mall later, I came across Tricks Styling Clay! Something new to me but I've heard

I’m supposed to blog about a news article I read earlier about a potential cure for HIV that has been discovered but I changed my mind as soon as I flipped open my Harrison’s Principles of Internal Medicine book.  I got reminded that the chapter on HIV is only about 50+ pages long.  And since I’m not really in the mood for some academic stuff and lengthy posts, I dumped the idea.  Maybe you could just go read the article for the meantime.  And maybe I’ll post something about HIV next time.  Or maybe in the near future.  But surely not now.

Instead, I’ve decided to bore you with some teeny weeny little issue that has been on my mind lately.

Most of my friends are either married, engaged to be married, or in a relationship.  So it’s already an accepted fact that, as months and years pass by, the circle of friends attending the Saturday tambay nights is getting smaller and smaller.  Currently, I’m one of those who are single and not in a relationship so I’m a regular during these Saturday nights (Actually, I’m always a regular, even before when I was still in a relationship).  And I don’t mind that there are less people every Saturday than it used to.  I mean, it’s most possible that each one of us (or most of us) will be starting our own families in the near future and it wouldn’t be healthy if we maintain the tambay nights then.  So, we are trying to enjoying it now while we still can.  Never mind those who can’t come.  They have valid reasons, anyway.

What I don’t like hearing is that some of my friends, who aren’t attending the tambay nights that often anymore, are complaining that their partners are hindering them from joining.  The reason, according to them, is that they’re already engaged to be married and they ought to be getting used to spending less time with the barkada so they won’t be craving for that tambay time anymore when they got married.  Of course, they’re willing to make adjustments.  But to not see friends anymore?  It’s rather unfair.

Conditioning oneself to crave less for night outs with friends may sound sensible, if not only for the fact that, in my friends’ case, not both partners agree to such an arrangement.

A person cannot impose on his partner to withdraw from his social circle and condition himself to make his life revolve around his partner, just for the sake of getting used to how it is to be “married”.  It’s not a healthy way to maintain a relationship.  One simply cannot dictate which facets of his partner’s life should remain and which should not. However, I think it is sensible to adjust to being a more matured person, as is required of someone who’s going to get married.  But this growing-up doesn’t require anyone to forsake his friends.

I’m not saying that it is correct for someone who’s about to get married to just continue living a wasteful kind of life, like what he would do if he weren’t thinking of raising up a family.  Arrangements can be made so that both partners can have some of what they want out of the relationship.

My advice to my friends is like this:

1. Make an arrangement with your partner so that you could, at least, come to some of the tambay nights.  Maybe twice a month would do.  The rest of the weekends you could get to spend together as your couple quality time.
2. Barkada outings are scheduled ahead of time.  Both of you should just make the necessary application for office leaves, etcetera, so that you could both go to the outing and not leave the other one feeling that he/she is less wanted.  After all, your partners are all welcome to join the barkada anytime.
3. Don’t talk about the barkada all the time when you’re with your partner.  Even if the barkada is friends with them, your partner might think that you like your barkada better than him/her (oh yeah, it’s one of those common causes of jealousy).
4. If talking about adjustments seems to lead to quarrels, then try talking about it next time.  But don’t ever let it be NOT talked about.  It should be settled even before you get married.  Well, yeah, there will still be lots of adjustments even after you get married.  But, at least, you’ve already started with some adjusting.
5. Always remember this:  both of you have to adjust to one another.  Don’t ever allow yourself to be bullied into submission all the time.  A relationship is a joint effort.  Both of you should put work into it, and not just let one person be making adjustments.

Maybe some of you are already saying: what right do I have to give advice on being engaged and getting married when I’m not even married herself?

Well, aside from the fact that these aren’t unsolicited advice (my friends do tend to ask my opinion on a variety of things, even the married ones), just consider this as a perspective from the other side of the fence.

What do you think about this little dilemma?

Tags: friends, married, engaged, friend dilemma

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“Hmmm…you’re itching to blog about this, aren’t you?”

That was my friend’s question which popped up while we were talking about his personal dilemma over the phone. Trust my friend to make matters light even if he’s already having headaches with the kind of problems he found himself stuck in.

“Actually, yeah, I’m thinking of how I’m going to present your little story and what’s my take on…”

“Hah! Let me remind you…it’s unbloggable, you blog addict!”

“Awww…okay.”

So, I couldn’t really escape the fact that my affection for blogging comes across like addiction.  Oh well, it isn’t so bad.  Each of us has his own kind of addiction anyway.  Haha :-P  (Please note that I’m just using the term “addiction” loosely in this post.  I’m not referring to a clinical addiction.  And I don’t think my addiction would reach that level.)

I found this pretty nifty blog addiction quiz through Jayvee’s blog (blog surfing again haha). And look:

75%How Addicted to Blogging Are You?

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I love blogging. ‘Nuff said.

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Tags: blogging, blog addiction, blogging addiction, addiction to blogging